Weight loss-Why the mental side is the hardest and how to learn to love ourselves.
When you want to lose weight everyone will be happy to tell you what exercises to do, what food to eat, what food to not eat, even how to count your macros if that is your thing¦ But you know what I feel like people don’t talk about enough is the mental side to weight loss. I know for me this is the hardest part, and that is what I want to shed light on today.
Like many women I have struggled with my weight loss over the years, up and down, through fitness and well, not! I notice this on a daily basis. Do I really need to get out of this warm bed to go walking or can I just go tomorrow? Do I really need to do that last exercise, it really seems hard, can I just skip these burpees, isn’t what I have don’t today enough? Do I need to do the cool down stretches, I really just want to get home and have dinner as I am exhausted! Plus now in Australia it is winter, with the temperature dropping it makes it even harder to get up earlier, to be out in the cold, I know, I get it, I hear you, I get you.
I think what is important to remember is we are all doing the best we can. For me, I bring it back to the smallest steps. I don’t think about the huge booty workout that will have me shaking as I stumble out of the gym! I just focus on stepping foot in the gym, that’s my victory.
When I have to wake up early for my walk, I sleep in my active wear, so it’s a stumble out of bed. But I make sure I get time to make myself a delicious breakfast and sit and enjoy my meal and that’s my reward. I just think there is such a pressure we put on ourselves from social media in particular. We all compare ourselves to the girls with abs or big booty, it is what we do.
So what I want you to think about are what are your little victories you can make today? If I don’t want to go for a walk or a run I tell myself, just go 10 minutes, that’s all, then you can go home. I never only do 10 minutes but it gets me moving. I have those pens I can write on mirrors and I write up a calendar, I am a very visual person so when I go for a walk or go to the gym I write it down. It is such a feeling of accomplishment and that spurs me on.
If you think about how your weight loss how much do you want to lose 15kg or 30kg? It will only ever seem like a giant, unreachable mountain that you could never climb to the top, start little, focus on putting one foot in front of the other. There is a reason why if you have to do 10 reps, but the 8th you are dying, yet as soon as you have to do 15 you sail past number 8 and are dying at number 13¦ Fundamentally what we need to be doing is focusing on the little victories the small, consistent actions, but also we need to learn to show ourselves some love.
The way we live our lives through social media has resulted a disconnect between us and our bodies. We focus so much on other people, we don’t think about how great our legs are to carry us around each day, how great it is that we have boobs, arms, booty, it is all us, we are all women and we are all beautiful. If we think about that, really think about it, and learn to appreciate us for who we are then you will want to go for a walk because that is what makes you feel better, so does the gym and eating good, healthy food. This is what is best for you, not what social media says you need to doing to look like a certain person.
Sometimes when I come out of a shower when I moisturise I don’t rush I just focus on each body part, and I recite to myself, one reason why I love this part of my body, what has it done for me? This little exercise sometimes I need to perform more frequently than others really helps me reconnect with myself and means I generally make better health decisions that day.
I saw this quote on Snapchat: Life is too short to be angry at yourself for being human.
I know that this is a journey, I know that for a lot of us we don’t just wake up and are fit and healthy, but it’s something that we need to work on every day. But through kindness to ourselves and others we can get there, one step at a time.